200th Post: ‘Traded Dreams’

I’ve always been a writer. When I was young, I wanted to be a novelist; specifically, I wanted to write literature. In my teens and early twenties, I wrote a lot of poetry. In hindsight, it wasn’t very good. My senior year in college, I took a creative writing class and wrote some short stories.... Continue Reading →

This Old Girl

I was eighteen-years-old when I started getting called “Ma’am.” I was a third-class cadet, having survived the first year at the Coast Guard Academy and arrived at the point where there was a class below me on the totem pole. Now, I am forty-three, and I am often referred to as a girl. When I... Continue Reading →

The Highest Calling

When I first began writing this post, it was dripping with bitterness. I started again, but I still felt the influence of so many years of sadness and hurt. I was writing as Mother’s Day approached. On my mind were of all of exaggerated and sentimental statements I have heard at church, all because the... Continue Reading →

What I’m Not Missing

What I’m not missing probably says more than what I am. The conditions brought about by the response to the pandemic may be a better gauge of personality than any assessment that has been created for that purpose. One assessment I took, over twenty years ago, declared me to be a “clear introvert.” All these... Continue Reading →

Picture-Perfect Woman

Most Christians probably don’t think of Proverbs 31 as a controversial passage of Scripture, but to a single woman, it can feel like a slap-in-the-face. The description of the “Excellent Wife” is often held up as the Biblical standard for a godly woman. It seems to require a husband and children in order to meet... Continue Reading →

The Choosy Beggar

Last week, I shared some of my observations about the church culture in America. As a single Christian woman and a writer, I feel called to tell others what I am able to see from my  perspective. Some issues I address I have seen at my current church, and some I have experienced elsewhere. I... Continue Reading →

Changing the Narrative

I remember once my grandpa telling me that he prayed for God to provide husbands for my sister and me, but only if it was in His will. Grandpa stressed the caveat. He wanted me to be aware that God’s will was the most important thing. This was a lesson that would take me years... Continue Reading →

Jesus Was Single.

Many churches in America have become segregated societies. This likely comes as a surprise to those of you in the majority. But people who have never married know they are separated. The categorizing of people into groups seems to have been a response of larger churches to the need for people to connect with other... Continue Reading →

Tax Collectors and Singles

When it comes time to move, you find out who your friends are. Certainly, I don’t have very many, but I will take quality over quantity, any day. I was thinking during a recent sermon, how if "tax collectors and sinners" were outcasts of the Jewish population in Jesus time on earth, perhaps singles are... Continue Reading →

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