My friend is married. In a flood of mixed emotions, I found myself back at the essential question I posed in my last blog: Do I believe that there is more happiness in following Jesus than in being married? I found myself crying to God with the words of the father of the possessed boy... Continue Reading →
In my first couple of years at the Coast Guard Academy, the athletic director was Chuck Mills. I still remember something he said at a Fellowship of Christian Athletes breakfast: “There are only two ways to stop losing: win or quit.” I quoted that on my year book page when I graduated. I was always... Continue Reading →
I’m not a people person. I have trouble saying the right thing in the best of times, so I am really at a loss when a person is upset or going through difficulty. My personal strengths are learning and problem solving, not showing sympathy. I don’t like this about myself. I excel at my job,... Continue Reading →
What I’m not missing probably says more than what I am. The conditions brought about by the response to the pandemic may be a better gauge of personality than any assessment that has been created for that purpose. One assessment I took, over twenty years ago, declared me to be a “clear introvert.” All these... Continue Reading →
I didn’t know that I was looking for something, until I realized that I hadn’t found it. As I found myself in a new, unfamiliar wing of the building I lived in for four years, it sank in to my heart: you can’t go back. I have always felt that time travel is not possible... Continue Reading →
Last week, I shared some of my observations about the church culture in America. As a single Christian woman and a writer, I feel called to tell others what I am able to see from my perspective. Some issues I address I have seen at my current church, and some I have experienced elsewhere. I... Continue Reading →
I have often wondered if I have “Buzz Off” tattooed on my forehead in special ink that other people can see, but I can’t. It might explain some of my difficulties making friends. Last week, in the midst of a difficult and tear-filled day, a couple of people told me that they were ‘here’ for... Continue Reading →
I am beginning to see adverse effects from long-term singleness. It is impacting my attitudes and behaviors. For me, the years of singleness haven’t just been life without a husband; it has been a struggle to connect with people and develop meaningful friendships. My past is littered with unreturned emails and declined invitations. I have... Continue Reading →
Every time I read the book of Nehemiah, I get excited to come across the verse that tells us about Shallum, who worked to repair the wall with his daughters. (Nehemiah 3:12) That’s the kind of daughter I am. It is a joy for me to work beside my father on whatever needs to be... Continue Reading →
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