Whac-A-Mole: Mental Edition

I’m not a people person. I have trouble saying the right thing in the best of times, so I am really at a loss when a person is upset or going through difficulty. My personal strengths are learning and problem solving, not showing sympathy. I don’t like this about myself. I excel at my job,... Continue Reading →

What I’m Not Missing

What I’m not missing probably says more than what I am. The conditions brought about by the response to the pandemic may be a better gauge of personality than any assessment that has been created for that purpose. One assessment I took, over twenty years ago, declared me to be a “clear introvert.” All these... Continue Reading →

The Choosy Beggar

Last week, I shared some of my observations about the church culture in America. As a single Christian woman and a writer, I feel called to tell others what I am able to see from my  perspective. Some issues I address I have seen at my current church, and some I have experienced elsewhere. I... Continue Reading →

Metaphoric Masonry

I have often wondered if I have “Buzz Off” tattooed on my forehead in special ink that other people can see, but I can’t. It might explain some of my difficulties making friends. Last week, in the midst of a difficult and tear-filled day, a couple of people told me that they were ‘here’ for... Continue Reading →

Singularly Self-Centered

I am beginning to see adverse effects from long-term singleness. It is impacting my attitudes and behaviors. For me, the years of singleness haven’t just been life without a husband; it has been a struggle to connect with people and develop meaningful friendships. My past is littered with unreturned emails and declined invitations. I have... Continue Reading →

Ditching Church

Every time I read the book of Nehemiah, I get excited to come across the verse that tells us about Shallum, who worked to repair the wall with his daughters. (Nehemiah 3:12) That’s the kind of daughter I am. It is a joy for me to work beside my father on whatever needs to be... Continue Reading →

I’ll Stop Short of Begging

Am I the only one who has difficulty making friends at church? Is it because I’m single, or is it because of who I am? Over time, you join groups which eventually dissolve as people marry off. Some friends “disappear” after getting married, forsaking the friendships they had with single people. In the back of... Continue Reading →

God Is My Matchmaker, Part I

I’m in full vacation-count-down mode for an upcoming trip to Montana with my sister. Some of my co-workers, Christians whom I count as friends, have begun a mantra of “Maybe you’ll meet a cowboy!” My last big vacation was to Hawaii, and prior to that trip, there was similar talk of me “meeting” a man.... Continue Reading →

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