I have a confession to make: I spend way too much debating about what to wear to church. I don’t want to care. I hate the vanity of it. But no matter how hard I try to let go of it, I do care. I want to look nice and I want to fit in,... Continue Reading →
Keep Your Eyes To Yourself!
Lust: whether it’s a member of the opposite sex or a Snickers bar, we have to manage temptation if we are to steer clear of sinful behavior. I wish I could say that I learned everything I need to know about self-control at Weight Watchers. That program definitely helped me get my gluttony under control,... Continue Reading →
Not Vindication, Redemption
Just over seventeen years ago, I made a bad decision to get involved with a man who I shouldn’t have. I sacrificed a lot to have a relationship with him. When the consequences came around, I faced them steadfastly, with knowledge that there would be vindication when he married me. But there was never a... Continue Reading →
Dear Church: It’s the Little Things
As a single person, it is easy to feel invisible at church. My church sent out a letter to the members, this week. Two letters arrived at my apartment, both addressed to “The Bentley Family.” It’s nothing new. When annual giving statements are sent, the same thing happens unless someone takes the time to handwrite... Continue Reading →
Better a Single Mary than a Married Martha
There are a lot of things that I tell myself to help keep my perspective about my life of singleness; call them mantras, silver linings, or bright sides. Whatever name you give them, as Christians, we have to keep ourselves grounded in the truth. For me, it means not only reading Scripture, but working to... Continue Reading →
Certified Daddy’s Girl
My sisters would probably say that I earned the title, “Daddy’s Girl” when I went off to the Coast Guard Academy after high school. Or perhaps it was before that, when I was the only one of the three of us with an affinity for shooting a rifle. But I didn’t start to identify myself... Continue Reading →
Steadfastness & Security
Are Christian women just as interested in marrying for money as women who are not Christians? This topic came up among a group of us in my workplace, yesterday. It was great food for thought. Being the opinionated and outspoken single woman that I am, I immediately made my sentiments known: a woman who is... Continue Reading →
Double-Minded Singleness
Another week and more spilled coffee. God is testing my resolve. I am blaming my clumsiness on my inner ear, which is an unfortunate victim of a sinus infection. I have been plagued with sinus problems for years. I won’t bore you with the details because they aren’t relevant. What is relevant is that sinus... Continue Reading →
Don’t Cry Over Spilled Coffee
I love coffee. Even if I weren't a caffeine addict, I would still love coffee. I make my coffee for myself at home every day. My coffeemaker has a timer on it, so that when I get out of bed each morning, I go straight to the kitchen where the coffee is already brewed and... Continue Reading →
