Not Vindication, Redemption

Just over seventeen years ago, I made a bad decision to get involved with a man who I shouldn’t have. I sacrificed a lot to have a relationship with him. When the consequences came around, I faced them steadfastly, with knowledge that there would be vindication when he married me. But there was never a... Continue Reading →

Dear Church: It’s the Little Things

As a single person, it is easy to feel invisible at church. My church sent out a letter to the members, this week. Two letters arrived at my apartment, both addressed to “The Bentley Family.” It’s nothing new. When annual giving statements are sent, the same thing happens unless someone takes the time to handwrite... Continue Reading →

Certified Daddy’s Girl

My sisters would probably say that I earned the title, “Daddy’s Girl” when I went off to the Coast Guard Academy after high school. Or perhaps it was before that, when I was the only one of the three of us with an affinity for shooting a rifle. But I didn’t start to identify myself... Continue Reading →

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Steadfastness & Security

Are Christian women just as interested in marrying for money as women who are not Christians? This topic came up among a group of us in my workplace, yesterday. It was great food for thought. Being the opinionated and outspoken single woman that I am, I immediately made my sentiments known: a woman who is... Continue Reading →

Double-Minded Singleness

Another week and more spilled coffee. God is testing my resolve. I am blaming my clumsiness on my inner ear, which is an unfortunate victim of a sinus infection. I have been plagued with sinus problems for years. I won’t bore you with the details because they aren’t relevant. What is relevant is that sinus... Continue Reading →

Don’t Cry Over Spilled Coffee

I love coffee. Even if I weren't a caffeine addict, I would still love coffee.  I make my coffee for myself at home every day.  My coffeemaker has a timer on it, so that when I get out of bed each morning, I go straight to the kitchen where the coffee is already brewed and... Continue Reading →


This week, I went on a bit of a "book-binge." I had been itching to read some fiction by one of my favorite Christian authors, and while I put it off for a bit, I finally gave in last Saturday night. I try not to let myself read too much fiction because I tend to let... Continue Reading →

Hope That is Seen is Not Hope

Earlier this week, I read a blog on the singles’ website of a well-known ministry. The writer was a woman who wanted to encourage singles not to give up hope for marriage, no matter how old they were. She wrote that many of her single women friends were choosing not to hope because it caused... Continue Reading →

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